The Seven Principles
A love map is a picture you build in your mind of your partner’s internal world and deals with their dreams, hopes, goals, worries and values. Couples who are intimately familiar with one another have a richly detailed love map. This includes remembering the major events in each other’s history and keeping the information updated as things change. From knowledge springs love and the strength to cope when things feel rough between you. For example, studies show that two thirds of couples report a decrease in marital satisfaction when they have their first baby. However, for the remaining third, their marriages improved. What separated these groups? Interestingly, couples whose marriages blossomed after birth had detailed love maps. The love maps protected their marriages through stressful times.